Molly: Wanna PLAY PLAY PLAY!
Mair: We’ve got WORK to do.
Molly: Wanna PLAY PLAY PLAY Wanna PLAY ALL DAY
Mair: I hear you but we have work to do.
Molly: You’re not listening to me! I wanna PLAY!
Mair: I AM listening, but...
Molly: You’re always putting your “but” in my face! 😦
Mair (realizing this is going nowhere satisfying. Slowing down. Breath.) Molly do you want to know what you want matters?
Molly: Yes. We never get to play when I wanna play.
Mair: You want to play now, yes?
Molly: YES! At last you are hearing me!
Mair: I hear you want to play. Are you willing to hear what I want?
Mair: Do you want to trust that I won’t forget what you want; that you want to play?
Mair: OK. I hear you want to play. And I want to play, too, and I want to do some work too. Are you with me?
Molly: You want to play too, and you want to work too?
Mair: Yes, thank you for hearing me, Molly. What shall we do so we could play and work? Do you have any ideas?
Molly: Yes. Let’s play now and work later!
Mair: You want to play now and then work later?
Molly: Yes. I wanna play now. You always want to work.
Mair: How does this sound? Play now for 15 minutes? I’ll set the timer and put it where we can both see it. Then in 15 minutes we put the timer on again for 15 minutes of work., ok?
Molly: OK. I’m tired of talking….I wanna play now….
So we play. And the conversation continues between Adult Mair and Inner Child Molly. Sometimes we play more than we work. Sometimes we work more than we play.
The more time that we spend actually listening to each other, the more inner harmony and peace, the more ease and love there is between us.
Life is more satisfying overall.
As we listen to each other we build trust between us.
That helps to establish a quality of connection that inspires natural giving from the heart. We build trust and respect and safety between us.
We lessen the distrust and unease that we have lived with for so long.
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